tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-881787472105749352024-02-20T01:35:29.195-08:00Feminism is Not Against MenAll about supporting the gender women and the strive for equality and justice.Christyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06051441642438254316noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88178747210574935.post-45518714656309680062010-04-02T10:24:00.000-07:002010-04-02T10:26:30.810-07:00Women need to unite<div style="text-align: justify;">Now I have to acknowledge the fact that men are better than women in something’s and they behave normal than women in many situations. During many circumstances I heard and experienced woman criticizing their other fellow beings for illegitimate reasons. Men always unite in this regard. I flabbergast why woman can’t unite like this? This made me feel that it is not the men but sometimes women is the enemy of women gender.</div><div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Once a lady she was complaining to me that how that women can be so colorful when she's a widow. It is very easy for women to point out and tell that she is a widow. When it happens to them they will come to know the pain which they carry. I don't understand the connection of colors with the term widow. In which way it combines together (crap). Another woman was grumbling to me about the way the other lady dressed herself in an indecent way. But ma question is why the hell other woman’s having problems regarding this?? If they don't like then better they don't carry themselves in such a manner. How can one judge others life by their own lifestyle. All born and bought up in a different family and background. I awe that don’t they have brain to think the basic things. For understanding the basic things one has not to be educated highly or attain a doctorate. Using our reasonable commonsense is enough for this. </div></div><div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">After all everybody has their own choice to select the kind of lifestyle they desire. The worse part I felt was, they convince their men's also in the same way by gossiping about other women’s in a bad way. It is unfair and injustice when women doesn't utter a word or supports their same gender.</div></div><div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Once I met an old lady and we started to discuss many general things. Later the topic moved to “sex workers”. She was non stop criticizing them with so much of aggression in her voice. So I was like even I never accepted what they did for their earning or to fill their stomach. But why to blame a woman alone. Then what about the men who being selfish in fulfilling their desire even without thinking about his wife and children who might be waiting for him in his house. What about that? Why people don't point out or raise voice against men rather than labeling a woman as a prostitute. Why they tag women for leading an immoral life. I agreed they are doing wrong and but why the hell it is not wrong for men. Where it is written as correct for all men's and incorrect for woman. What reason one have to state regarding this? </div></div><div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Women who opt such a lifestyle for their personal likes rather than money then it is true and I can nod ma acceptance. But the others who opt this for earning their daily bread and butter to feed their poor children's. They don't want to be and never desired to be a sex worker, but fortune left them with no other options also. After all who made them like that. Those brutal men's is it…</div></div><div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">For those who tag themselves as a saint, regarding these men's what justification one can state. Is it fair to label a woman whose faults are not hers alone? Men and women commit the same wrong but the bad mark or culpability is on women's head. </div></div><div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">What’s the connotation behind supporting a special gender without any genuine reasons? And the thing which astonishes me is that how can a woman foolishly don't support her own gender heartlessly. I never put blame on men or women only because of the gender. I figures out the wrong even if it appears in the part of men or women. To all the ladies…. We need to unite for the upliftment and protection of our same gender. </div></div>Christyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06051441642438254316noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88178747210574935.post-67423978098416528462010-02-18T01:08:00.000-08:002010-02-18T01:20:12.145-08:00Why they can't understand ….<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">During the last few months I got bugged by listening some unreasonable conversation from some people. Some woman, they just don't have their own identity and they are happy in that, so no worries for them. But they implements and evaluate the same rules for all errrrrrrrr..... I don't know why they do that. Anyway now situations made me to switch on to some people in ma life who I really don't even like to talk with. But I pretend to be very nice and acts like I love them ;)... I have to do it.... sometimes woman itself digs their own pit; but they make other fellow beings also fall into it. </span></span><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Few months back, I must tell you this place is a rural area with people who never think forward and doesn't ever want to. The girls of this village X dress up in an ordinary way not at all trendy. To look trendy and dress up in a well-stylish way was totally out of their focus and mind. And most of the women over there was not even educated. My dad always argues with me like... lex you can notice the difference of attitude and the culture carried between educated and illiterate people. I never agreed to ma Dad. I and mom always argues with dad regarding this and we say like it is not the education which matters, but its just the way they bought up. The main thing is that I never had an occasion to interact with the people who are not of ma same wavelength and attitude. But now I had to visit this place in between. Actually at some point I love the people over there because they are very innocent from their heart not like the people in cities, this truth I need to accept about them. But the thing is that they never tries to understand anything, which is not of their focus. So in short who would love innocent people who doesn't have the capacity to understand others ;)</span></span><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">For them they never seen girls with hip hop style or trendy... There dressing up contemporary is a kind of odd and all of them stare like, the girl came form mars or some other planet. Piercing is common nowadays and almost everyone gets it done. But for them its just like untraditional, against spiritual or this is a simple village nobody wears/ carries like this or do all these things. For them dress cord must be a saree or salwar for girls. They allege saree and salwar is the best for girls to hide from not being exposed. For men it is fine, no matter how they are dressing up. I was like what the hell.... does that make any sense now. And saree in which way that makes a girl not being exposed. Saree is considered to be the sexiest dress that a women can expose herself. OK salwar is considerable; but then they demand not to have the side slits ...errrr again the qualities of illiteracy they reveals in some or the other way.... they command these in the name of religion, tradition or whatever. Bullshit... I don't understand whats going wrong with their brains. If they are alleging in the name of God then let me put one question-Do God look up their dress or heart. Some times these people just sucks our life and makes us irritated from our inner soul. I just felt to yell at them and say in which century are you people living??? but then I forcefully shuts my mouth. If I shout at them also they wont understand so leave the damn....They never live happily and because of that don't let live others also happy by imposing these senseless traditions and rules which are of useless and no value. </span></span><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Its better not to speak about some men over there. Its just disgusting. I don't know how they manage to see a girl's body part inside through the slit(side cut opening of a salwar) the salwar of the girls. And they telling those girls dress themselves indecently.... what the fish...Do they use microscopes or what to see?? Yukking old mens. Its not the youngsters, this is the job of old mens who always peep their eyes to see whether girls wore the duppata, or the neck is deep or not, did they wear the long earing etc,.... craps. Don't they have any other jobs. I was telling myself that “why this old dumps can mind their on bullshit business. And they presents themselves as very clean and pure. Then these men goes on tell everyone in public like... how can that girl dress up like that, its so bad that women to wear a deep necked blouse.... OWW MA GOD and they tells they never observes and notice all those things. They allege well their arguments by telling that it is written in scriptures.... what nonsense... I don't understand which scriptures. A scripture which is written of their own Huh??? And putting that blame in the head of God. Christ... making the God impure by stating all these as scriptures. God never want a women to dress up in salwar wearing dupattas, or sarees with very short or long neck, or without any slits in salwars...... </span></span><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">“A women and men should dress up in a modest way”. Ok this statement I totally agreed. So a girl wearing a bikini or a micro mini and roaming in front of them then I can understand the statement they have made. I would have agreed. But this is like totally invalid statements. I just wonder in olden days the womens dress... why don't they ask or are not dressing up like that then...</span></span><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Oww my God... I was just making calm myself after listening to all this brainless opinions from some people. But the main thing is that, they are fine and innocent and that makes me feel talk with them again by forgiving all these. Anyways I don't give a damn mind. I just ignore but I convince myself by telling to ma mind that they are bought up in such a way and moreover they live in a village so they have to be . So we need to understand them . But all the time I thinks and convince my self and they never tries to understand. This makes me bugged and irritated again. Why the hell they can't understand us, why they can't think outside from their concept and focus, when we do. All the time I forgive, get adjusted, understands, and convince myself for them and they don't even give a damn to understand us and nor they tries.</span></span><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-family:lucida grande;">Some people just numb to others feeling and at the same time they want others to understand them. What an outlook and attitude. Jesus Christ.... I just praying to reveal these things to them so that they can think and understand others also. They says that they loves their neighbour and fellow beings as their own sisters and brothers hahaha funny... :). To love a person means, we have to understand them and accept them as what they are.... Anyways my life is challenging for myself when I am with them to go through many situations like this. I learned a lot of patience. Thanks to God for being with me and accepting people as what they are.</span></span></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Christyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06051441642438254316noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88178747210574935.post-90338982431210449162009-12-11T03:43:00.000-08:002009-12-11T04:04:32.134-08:00This is the time for women to start thinking out of box...<div style="text-align: justify;">I usually heard of saying in a married life that, always wife should obey, wife should adjust, wife should be quiet, etc..<br /><br />I have seen many women after being married she radically changes herself as a responsible wife, mother and all....it is like she obliged to. Even though she doesn't want. Many woman' struggling hard in their life to handle everything accordingly. They give up their priorities, goals, aims and everything for the family and in return they gain no value and importance in their life and family. And it is well stated by the others and men as women should give first importance and concern to their family, accepted and agreed. So what the men are supposed to give importance to?? They never give up their things for his wife and family.. he hangs out with his friends, his carrier, aims goals, go touring, blasting parties, drinks, smoke. What else the hell they can do other than this. Family is meant for both men and women is it!! If these things a husband can do, then why the hell the wife can't do. What the crap reasons one can give for this. If men are human being, then mind it women as well... I feel weird and awful when some impertinent rules made applicable without any basis by prejudicing between women and men.<br /><br />I have seen a family where the wife is a housewife, her husband is working and having two young boys as their children. The husband thinks that, he is working and giving money to run the house, and the children they don't even help their mother. All people have a feeling like housewife's they don't do any job and sitting free. But this women I knew from morning she starts her target of work. She does all the household works, goes to market, pay the phone bills, current bills, to bank and other outdoor and indoor works. She is doing double work than her husband. Finally when her husband comes she makes everything ready, the food, bed and everything. Morning she makes tea then breakfast and the lunch for her children and husband, iron their dress and even in the bathroom, she fills the water, and sets everything perfectly with soap, hot water and towel. And in case if she fails to do anything, then entire accusation is on her head. Her husband states like what you are doing in home the whole day... eating and sleeping, why you didn't do that in time, where is my shirt, my tie... blah... blah... and if she spells out anything, then you are not supposed to speak against me as (what the hell) I am your husband and I am giving you money for having food.... and listening that she keeps quiet.<br /><br />I was just wondering how women become so imbecile and speechless. Why some women just react like mindless. They leave everything, get adjusted, performs everything, takes up the responsibilities and what else they are getting back in return. This is not the one family I knew, this is the experience of many woman and their family. Why the hell we girls give our authority to men. Start earning yourself and stand in your own legs and look after your child. Don't give them the chance to say that we are giving food for you.... Girls the only way to gain your personality is by becoming independent financially and mentally. Just start thinking about that and don't lose your individuality where you are not getting back your value. If you having a partner who really treasures your pain and stress, then it is worth doing all this, otherwise why the crap we women going on behave like a doll whose key is with men.<br /><br />Usually almost all the husband think that my wife should be like this, she should be simple, humble, homely, should cook food nice, always under and inferior to me, obey me until lifelong. Then to make your wife like that, men doesn't have to do anything huh? All the sacrifices and adjustments should be done by women and what else husband have to do.... juts sit and think. They want to be themselves and we have to accept as how they are. Why, then they want to change their wife rather than changing themselves.<br /><br />Just tell me what they are doing and they can?. They might be doing a good job that even we women also can, instead of this what they do. They don't know to do anything. Women, they work in office and go home, do other works like cooking, washing, take care of children and whereas husband reading newspaper relaxing or might be watching some sports or other rubbish craps... and still they want women to under them and to obey them (crazy). Still they say we men doing more work than women (I don't understand in which aspect) and men can handle and resolve better than women (never men can handle problems like women).<br /><br />It might be true that many men might be having their wife under the control of them, but they are not and never going to have the control and authority on their souls. According to women, a real men is he who respects women as he respects himself and values the feelings rather being selfish.<br /><br />God never created women or men to be a slave... god created human beings for a good companion... a partner for men as well as for women. Most of the men forgets that. Women is also a human being with blood, flesh and feelings. Empathize yourself in their place and try to understand how strain your wife is taking for you. Be a man and support her.... What the women should change is that, they need to think out of the box instead of behaving dump. Adjustment, sacrifice, pain, stress etc can be done with those who values that and with a mutual understanding.</div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Christyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06051441642438254316noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88178747210574935.post-25858919406039497352009-08-20T01:06:00.000-07:002009-08-20T10:24:08.756-07:00Todays Femenisim Is Not Against Men<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Feminism </span>means, its a basic theory of supporting equality for <span style="font-weight: bold;">both sexes </span>in all aspects. Mostly everybody thinks that feminism is something against all men... hey then let me tell you, its not anything against the gender men or a particular gender and don't be mistaken in this regard, its about the <span style="font-weight: bold;">equal rights</span> and there should not be any <span style="font-weight: bold;">discrimination</span> only because of the gender and sex. I have seen many male feminist who supports gender equality and freedom.<br /><br />Once I went for an interview and for that post they welcomed both men and women, but they needed womens who are not married and who are free from all the troubles; but when it comes to men, it was fine if he was married or having problems, and in some jobs for the same position women still earn less than man. And for many other things also I have experienced liked this. But I wonder why such a discrimination on this basis, why <span style="font-weight: bold;">women</span> doesn't gets their <span style="font-weight: bold;">rights</span> even after doing the same work, same job, same hard work, why their results are not counted.<br /><br />When it comes to the society, it becomes more worse, I seen many people supporting the things without any commonsense, like when same wrong or fault done by men and women, like a women would not get the same response as a man if she had to go out of her <span style="font-weight: bold;">morals</span> (ends up in many names like harlot, slut etc,.) and on the other hand it is acceptable for men to be like that and supports men by saying ya they are men so its fine, and you are women and you have to understand your limitations, but why only for women and justified in men's case; and why all this limitations are not applicable for men's Huh??. I know now the situations have changed and everything is developing so fast but still in many places I seen and realized the i<span style="font-weight: bold;">ndifference</span> and <span style="font-weight: bold;">inequality</span> only because of the <span style="font-weight: bold;">gender</span>.<br /><br />Few months back I have seen an incident which really wounded my heart and I put myself in deep thinking. I seen a family, where the husband comes to the home always drunken and beats his wife very badly always and they also having one small kid, who sits and cries when his mother is being beaten rudely by his father. I was reversing that scene in my mind, if it was a women who comes to the house like that drunken, then how many would have blamed her. See the situations still not changed. I awed that even though ,all kind of protections are availed in our <span style="font-weight: bold;">fundamental rights</span>(articles 14 to 16) but then why its not being implemented.<br /><br />I am not putting this blame to a particular gender, I know there are men and women who thinks nicely and supports, but there are also some people who does like this. In tribal areas I still know, a <span style="font-weight: bold;">girl baby</span> is being killed immediately after the baby is born. And they bring up their boy child in such a good way and don't give much care to girl child's, showing discrimination among their children's. They thinks women will get married and they will go along with their husband. And after marriage what is the individuality of women, known as her husbands name or fathers?? Why a <span style="font-weight: bold;">secondary treatment</span>? One more thing I have noticed is that, in many rural and tribal areas, its the women who <span style="font-weight: bold;">suppresses </span>other women from being succeed and prosper and in the same case I appreciates <span style="font-weight: bold;">men </span>for supporting their gender and in many cases I have noticed men's raising their voice for the <span style="font-weight: bold;">upliftment </span>of women. I astonished why does women doesn't unite in this regard for their common benefit and development.<br /><br />I born and bought up in a metro life and I didn't knew all this, but when I grown up and started going to many <span style="font-weight: bold;">rural places</span> for camps, I experienced this kind of discrimination's in inner side of our country and this made me think and waked up my conscious.<br /><br />Why do we blame our <span style="font-weight: bold;">country</span> for this? Centuries being passed away and do you know why still our <span style="font-weight: bold;">society</span> doesn't want to change this or why its not being <span style="font-weight: bold;">eradicated</span>, its only because we are not bothered about the things which is happened to our neighbors and we are fine with all this!!! its our fault not our country's. Hey common girls be together and unite for this.<br /></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Christyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06051441642438254316noreply@blogger.com3